Navigating mismatched libidos, feeling stuck in routines, or just craving more playfulness and pleasure are natural parts of growing together over time.
In long-term relationships, it’s common to feel desire ebb and flow, to relate to sex like it’s a chore, or to quietly build up feelings of rejection or resentment. Even loving, connected couples can struggle with differences in desires, changing needs, or the pressures of daily life crowding out time for intimacy.
Whether you're looking to rekindle passion or simply carve out meaningful time to nourish your relationship, this 3-night, 4-day retreat offers a spacious and supportive container to deepen intimacy. In a warm, welcoming, and nonjudgmental space, you’ll uncover what might be getting in the way of intimacy—and discover customized tools to support your unique dynamic.
Through guided exercises, playful exploration, and enriching conversations, you’ll be invited on a sensual journey to renew desire, expand your erotic potential, and strengthen the emotional and physical bonds between you. This retreat is a chance to slow down, savor each other, and co-create a relationship that feels vibrant, passionate, and deeply rooted.
Uncover libido blockers that get in the way of your turn on, pleasure, and intimacy and receive the tools and skills that will help you overcome them together
Break free of anxious-avoidant dynamics, cohabitator-coparent roles, and the pressure-rejection cycle and practice tuning into your feelings and needs
Explore how to flirt and offer tailor-made verbal, physical, and romantic bids for intimacy that make your partner feel desired and seduced
Discover how to create fun and exciting intimacy dates with a menu of ways to connect authentically and without pressure by attuning to the rightness of the moment
Acquire an array of practices that will support you to discover your desires and increase your capacity for giving and receiving fulfilling pleasure
Eat delicious, healthy food that meets most dietary restrictions
Lounge in a big, beautiful heated pool and hot tub and immerse in nourishing nature
Rest in hammocks under the trees and take in stunning vistas on hillside swings
Explore the trail system that winds through the property
Take movement, and mindfulness classes
Particpate in a couples massage class
Experience a bonus workshop on romantic, passionate, and dominant touch
Receive an additional group coaching session
Participate in a sensual soiree
Course content applicable to both monogamous and non-monogamous dynamics.
* Identify your specific intimacy blockers including pressure, insecurities, shame, conflict, stress, and more along with the skills to overcome them
* Engage in self-reflection exercises designed to foster a deeper understanding of your desires, needs, and fears when it comes to intimacy.
* Use the informational handouts to easily refer back to and remember the concepts, activities, and tools shared throughout the course.
* Select and record the specific practices and techniques that will empower you to continue to nurture your intimacy long after the course concludes.
Discover this peaceful retreat 1 hour from San Francisco nestled in the treetops of Sonoma wine country, where breathtaking nature meets modern chic design and amenities. The outdoor space includes hiking trails spanning 10 secluded acres with swings, camping hammocks, meadows, and stunning panoramic vistas. The house combines luxury & mid-century charm with a heated pool and hot tub, 3 wood burning fireplaces and a fireside conversation pit, 5 remodeled bathrooms, 2 sunlit cozy living rooms, and a large event space. EV charging is available for folks who arrive with electric vehicles.
There are options for camping, glamping, and gorgeous private rooms, including one that has a private sauna and soaking tub overlooking the woods! Check out the detailed schedule, photos of the property and lodging options, and more!
"he weekend was the perfect balance of classes, time in the idyllic Sonoma County setting, rest and reflection, and getting to know the other couples. We especially enjoyed that the harder relationship work regarding blocks to intimacy and how to handle them was tempered with fun, sexy classes. We came away with new knowledge and tools for keeping the flame alive in our relationship for many years into the future. " - B.H.
"My partner and I have been so caught up in parenting, work and life that we had started to feel more like coworkers than in a relationship. We left feeling more connected both emotionally and sexually and also so much clearer about what caused us to fall into that rut and how to avoid it moving forward. We wholeheartedly recommend this course!" - S. M.
"We have tried so many things that haven’t worked and I can honestly say this was the profound reset for our relationship that I had started to question if it was even possible. I am so grateful to Dr. Aly and Seb for their assistance, humor, and thoughtfulness in the ways they made the material so accessible and applicable." - C. T.
"This gave us the traction we’ve been hungry for in a way that feels authentic, accessible and real. We know what we need to work on and what each of us can do to show up more fully for the other. We already feel so much closer and are excited to continue to put this into action so we can maintain our intimacy." J. J.
* Tickets are sold in pairs. IF YOU WANT TO COME IN A GROUP OF 3, contact me at alisonashphd@turnon.love.
* We welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, races and ethnicities.
*Tickets are not refundable. They may be transferred to other individuals, but not a future event.
COVID Policy :
Please take an at-home antigen test within 24hrs of the retreat and take a photo of your results. Tests can also be purchased at the door for $10. If you are feeling unwell or develop symptoms, please stay home. Masks will be optional.
April 12th - How to Eat Pu🐱🐱y Like a Champ in Oakland (on-demand rental available)
April 14th - Navigating Non-Monogamy: Level 1 in Oakland (on-demand rental available)
April 21st - Mastering Non-Monogamy: Level 2 in Oakland (on-demand rental available)
April 23-26th - Sustainable Intimacy: Fuel Passion for Lasting Love in Sonoma (on-demand rental available)
April 28th - The Ins and Outs of Play Parties in Oakland(on-demand rental available)
From Pressure to Pleasure: Reclaim Your Desire
How to Be a Feminist in the Bedroom
Mastering Non-Monogamy Level 2
Navigating Non-Monogamy Level 1
Neurodiverse Love & Emotional Intimacy
Neurodiverse Pleasure & Sexual Intimacy
Neurodiverse Relating & Executive Function
Refining Your Sexual Intuition
Repairing Ruptures in Relationships
Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills (8 week course for individuals and couples)
Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game (4 week course for couples)
The Ins and Outs of Play Parties
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Visit TurnON.love for a complete list of my upcoming live events, coaching services, podcasts and more!
Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences. She has helped pioneer research into the orgasm gap and has written on topics ranging from pleasure in heterosexual dynamics to queer and trans identities and experiences. She also draws on her extensive training in Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy, Innate Somatic Intelligence Trauma Therapy Approach, and Somatica Method of sex and intimacy coaching to support her clients to radically explore and courageously express themselves.
Sebastian aka Seb is a certified TurnON.love sex and intimacy coach and educator. In addition to the extensive training he’s received from Dr. Alison Ash, the founder of TurnON.love, Seb has training from The Sexual Health Alliance, which is an AASECT accredited coaching program. Seb has two decades of experience of working with autistic folks, and specializes in supporting neurodivergent people and their partners to have fulfilling intimacy. He works with a wide range of clients supporting them to have the kinds of sexual interactions and romantic relationships they desire. Seb also works as a certified trauma-informed massage therapist, supporting his clients with embodiment, nervous system regulation, and naming wants and needs.
Dr. Aly and Seb design workshops, courses, and retreats and offer individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to be able to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy. They invite you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love and on Instagram.
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